Can people have sex?
Well, yes. Obviously. Or we'd not be here and the world'd be an emptier place. But, if there weren't people then there wouldn't be Pot Noodle, so it wouldn't be all bad.
I chanced upon an article in Slate Magazine today, because I was looking for information on sex. It's with hindsight that it dawned on me that Googling (is that a verb?) for "sex" at work may raise a few eyebrows when the IT server guys see what I came up with. My, human creativity really does know no bounds. I'm so glad I did it all on someone else's computer.
The rationale for finding oh so many sites of oh so many obliging women? Because I don't know enough about sex and older people. Always one to value CPD and a thirst for knowledge and self directed learning, I assiduously studied all I could, online.
Better still, the whole team poured over it all. We didn't learn a lot. I did learn that some of my colleagues know far too much about obscure specialist subjects.
Back to the reason for our diligent search. Sex. Can older people do it?
Really, can they?
No no no, not in a sweaty, physical, swinging from the chandaliers sort of way. In a legal, "Are they allowed to?" sort of way. A tricky matter to disentangle. Googling found far more sites of scantily clad ladies of a certain age than it did of learned legal discourse. There were of course some sites dedicated to lusty, obliging women. And sites dedicated to lawyers. All from the same search. I guess lawyers and prostitutes have more in common than one may first imagine, seeking to use their skills to satisfy their clients for significant amounts of cash.
We've a lady in a care home. She holds hands with a man. They kiss and cuddle. They're both widowed, so single. They're both demented, and are incapacitated adults (within the meaning of the Mental Capacity Act 2005, with respect to the decision of an intimate relationship). They like to sleep together. They've sought to have a sexual relationship together.
It's a bit like this.
MCA 2005 directs what can and can't happen, about a great many things (e.g. marriage) but not specifically about sex. Neither does the European Convention of Human Rights, that we could find. Nor did any guidance we rummaged around, on such sites that weren't gloriously lurid.
So, the question remains unanswered. And care homes in my corner take very different views on it "meddling" as they feel wont to do. A definitive answer 'pon desire is desirable. Do older adults have a right to sex?